Sarah Boyd


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9 Tell-Tale Signs You’re Dealing With A Dangerous Individual

Is there someone you work with that is making your life a living nightmare? You’ve tried everything, but nothing has worked? Perhaps you are dealing with someone that doesn’t fit the normal rules.

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Image credit @jshnaa

We’re all human and none of us are perfect. When it comes to building and leading teams most people have the capacity to engage in healthy or unhealthy behaviors. Good leadership and conflict resolution skills can resolve these normal challenges.

But there is a group of people that these skills do not work on. These individuals are dangerous and have the capacity to bring devastation to relationships and personal self-esteem for years.

Many of these dangerous individuals seem normal, so they are hard to pick until after the devastation has occurred.


1 High Turnover

If they are the leader or business owner, there is a high turnover rate of positions that directly report to them.

2 No Close Interpersonal Relationships

The individual doesn’t have consistently close friends. If they have some relationships, they are highly unstable.

3 Emotionally Unstable

You never know whether they are going to be happy, sad or angry. And you never really know what will trigger these emotions.


4 Past Destruction

The individual has been involved in breakdowns of teams and high turnovers. They often explain these situations as if they were the victim.

5 Different Reality

Things they say don’t quite make sense – their perception of reality is slightly off. But you can’t quite put your finger on exactly what it is.


6 You Begin To Doubt Your Reality

Although normally you are a reasonably secure person, after prolonged contact with this individual you question your reality and core belief systems. Self-doubt takes over.

7 You Swing Between Anger And Guilt

You feel angry at how they treat you and make you feel, but then you feel guilty. You think you should do the ‘right’thing and do whatever it takes to a keep relationship with them.


8 You Begin To Loose Your Confidence

After a conversation with them you leave feeling down, lacking in confidence and anxious. They subtly convince you they are highly successful, influential and nice.


9 Eventually You Feel You Can’t Talk To Anyone

They convince you that they have a close relationship with influential people. So you feel that if you were to talk to your boss about them, they would take their side and think you’re the crazy one.


If you are reading this and are thinking this sounds like someone you work with, there is hope! You may feel confused because you are caught in their behavioral cycle, but it is important to remember that the issue is with THEM, not you.

Realising that you are not the problem is the first step to dealing with the situation and getting your confidence back.


For further articles on personality disorders:

1. Narcissistic Personality Disorder:  “Know Someone Obsessed With Themselves?”

2. Borderline Personality Disorder: “Know Someone Unstable, Emotional and Explosive?” 

3. Histrionic Personality Disorder: “Know A Drama Queen?” 

4. Dependent Personality Disorder: “Know Someone Indecisive, Clingy & Dependent?”


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