Sarah Boyd


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4 Biggest Mistakes Even Smart Women Make That Hold Them Back From Rising

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Whether we are aware of them or not, we all have invisible forces that can hold us back from living out our greatest leadership potential.

Past experiences that were once a limiting reality, can turn into current limiting patterns & belief systems that hold us back. 


It’s just like the elephants at the circus.

When training the baby elephants at the circus, they place a rope around its neck attached to a small wooden post.

The baby elephants try to walk away, pulling & pushing against the rope, but the rope is stronger than them.

As this same experience happens over and over again, the elephants eventually stop trying & give in to the limitations of the rope.

Eventually as the elephant grows up becoming much stronger than before, because of it’s previous conditioning, it never even attempts to break free from the thing that is holding it back.

If only they knew how powerful they really were.


The same process happens for many women in leadership.

For many women, past experiences may still be hanging around their neck in the form of current behaviour or belief patterns, & are limiting their potential.

Many women have stopped trying to break through & rise.

In today’s episode we’re going to talk about the 4 biggest mistakes even smart women make that prevent them from rising.



1 Not being really clear on what you want

So many women are not clear on what they want for their life.

They become caught up in what their parents want, or what society wants, or doing the ‘right thing’.

But living like this only creates a half-hearted commitment to life, and leaves you feeling like you’re not bringing your true self to the table.

True aligned success begins with getting clear on what you really want.


2 Limiting belief system

Many women have stories they tell themselves that give ‘legitimate’ reasons for a lack of what they want.

Sometimes the story is that they don’t have the time or resource.

Other times the story is that they’re not good enough.

The power of these beliefs are taken away when we can view them as stories we are telling ourselves, rather than the ‘truth’.


3 Lack of understanding of the normal process of resistance

Fear, anxiety and self-sabotage are a natural part of the process of stepping out of our comfort zone.

Our psychology likes to maintain the status-quo & so when we step over the border-lines of comfort, our brain freaks out attempting to make us go back.

But we can often mis-interpret these feelings.

Many women interpret these feelings as a sign that they’re not good enough, or what they’re trying to build isn’t going to work.

These are not ‘sign’s, they’re just a natural part of the process, and as you keep going forward, your psychology will adjust to a ‘new normal’. 


4 Who they’re spending their time with

The people that we spend our time with either have the power to help us rise into our potential, or they bring a limit & cause us to shrink.

One of my favourite quotes is by the writer William Gibson (& please excuse the language):

“Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure that you are not in fact surrounded by a**holes.”

Have a think about the people that you spend most of your time with. How do they make you feel?

Our lack of living in our greatest potential can sometimes be as simple as spending too much time with the wrong people.


If only the baby elephants knew how powerful they really were.

The truth is the same for you.

If only you knew just how powerful you really are.


In the comments below, I’d love to hear from you – What’s the strongest force you find holds you back from rising?

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